Planning your wedding is incredibly joyful, but there is always one area that most couples struggle with and this is the guest list. It brings out the family politics in most families. Maybe your budget is tight or you just want to have people who are in your life daily there to celebrate with you, whatever your reasoning, there is always someone who objects to your choices; perhaps your Mother wants you to invite all of those aunts, uncles and cousins that you never see, or you want to invite one cousin because you get on really well with them but your other cousins will feel left out. It is always an area of wedding planning that is full of hurdles and logistics. So here are some tips to guide you through:
Remember when planning your destination wedding, quite often 80% of those invited will attend. This of course depends on where the wedding is, how much it will cost them to travel, and if they can travel abroad at that time.
Before you accept financial help from your family, ensure that they understand your dreams and ideas for your wedding day, including guests. This way you won’t feel pressured by them to invite people they want at your wedding just because they are contributing to the cost.
If you have chosen your venue already, then ensure that you stick within the numbers quoted by the venue so that you are not over capacity, it would be a disaster to have to un-invite guests later, you would be better off inviting less now and adding more guests later.
So how do you decide who to invite?
Well the first thing is to agree some rules, such as; no children, no distant family, no plus ones that you have never met, and so forth. Once you have made these rules, stick to them.
Secondly make a big list of all of those that you would like to attend your wedding. Break this down into four categories: Category 1 – essential must have guests. Category 2 – Would really like to attend. Category 3 – could invite if we have the space after we receive the first lot of RSVP’s. Category 4 – Evening Only (this might not be appropriate of you are having a destination wedding, as it might be a big ask to invite someone to travel abroad for your wedding, only to find they cannot attend the ceremony).
Then with any luck categories 1 & 2 will fit within your limited guest number, if not you will need to remove some from Category 2 and put them into 3.
As always the important thing is to remember that this is your special day and you should plan it how you want to and have only those around you who you love. Your guests will make your day more perfect, more memorable and more joyful, so enjoy this part of the planning as you imagine your special day with those you love.
We are Destination Wedding Planners based in Javea, in the Costa Blanca Spain, we plan beautiful and unique weddings for couples from all over the world.
We are qualified planners with vast experience, a selection of hand picked stunning venues and personally selected quality wedding suppliers. This combined with our knowledge, passion and love; we will plan and design you a day to remember for the rest of your lives.
We take over the burden and responsibility of planning a wedding from another country; we manage the logistics and planning on your behalf and are here to guide and support you from now until the big day – meaning that we take away the stress and give you an enjoyable and relaxing planning journey.
The Costa Blanca in Spain is a stunning place to have your wedding ceremony and celebrations, with a wide range of venues to suit all styles and budgets.
We have a large collection of unique and wonderful wedding venues in and around Altea including villas, hotels, beaches, seaside restaurants, country mansions and gardens. We can advise and recommend the most suitable venues for your requirements. Additionally we love to plan weddings at private villa’s so if you have a family or holiday villa and want your wedding held there, we can’t wait to transform your villa into a wedding heaven!
Here are a selection of our weddings and venues, but please feel free to visit our venues page for more information on each of our venues.